Curse

Rocky Raccoon · Jun 19, 2009, 11:50 PM // 23:50

Today I learned at work that a workmate had passed away overnight. I was not a close friend of this person, but he was a good man who had recently had medical problems. Being almost 61 it was sad to think that a younger man in his 50's had passed. I just hope that he is in a better place and I know that his suffering is over. I just had to get this out and I hope that you will all understand how fragile life really is. I know to you younger people this may seem like it can't happen to your acquaitance's, but it can. I apologize if this offends anyone, but I just had to say it.

arcanemacabre · Jun 20, 2009, 02:37 AM // 02:37

I feel ya. I had an old friend kill himself 3 days ago, and my next door neighbor die of cancer two months ago. It is a terrible feeling to lose someone close. However, it does seem to instill that respect for life a bit more - especially the suicide.

That friend of mine was only 14 days older than me, so that hit close to home even more.

pumpkin pie · Jun 20, 2009, 03:04 AM // 03:04

I know how you feel, I have an irc friend, that we play games together for almost 4 years, he pass away, RIP. He was only in his twenty. Some kind of heart disorder thing, at one time he was not able to log on, then he came back, everyone in the channel was so happy he had a successful operation, but it just didn't hold up. John was his name. His mom later came online to say she was very thankful that we kept him company through his ordeal. fond memory, I power level his Guild Wars Warrior at one time....

He was the second person i know online that had die, the first one was an older woman, die of cancer, another one die recently, she was in her 50s, no sign of anything, just gone like that. receive info over sms as I have not been playing that irc game for over a year now.

I hope they are all in better places.

*sob, sob* it was really sad.

I hope you feel better Risky Ranger, hang in there.

Hyperventilate · Jun 20, 2009, 08:15 AM // 08:15

I know the feeling. My best friend was murdered in a car accident when we were eleven years old. It was the most life changing and defining moment in my life. I don't know what I could say to console you, because nothing anyone could say would take away the pain. Life is a fragile thread and needs to be respected or else it'll simply snap. It's a terrifying feeling to have someone simply gone.

I wish you and your friend's family all the best. The best thing to do is to grieve in the way you feel the need to. Best wishes.

Etta · Jun 20, 2009, 10:19 AM // 10:19

Life is short, all we can do is to live it the best we can.

Roy_ · Jun 20, 2009, 11:48 AM // 11:48

I sympathize, but at the same time, I don't. Death is natural, in the end we all die. Take a phylisophical approach on these things, often it makes you feel a lot better. My personal beliefs are that he is in a better place. In said place there is no pain or suffering, only paradise.

t3dw4rd0 · Jun 20, 2009, 01:35 PM // 13:35

My condolences, it really is hard when someone passes, whether or not you know them well. It often just doesn't click, and it's just hard to believe, speaking from experience.

zwei2stein · Jun 20, 2009, 03:54 PM // 15:54

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Originally Posted by Roy Frogger

I sympathize, but at the same time, I don't. Death is natural, in the end we all die. Take a phylisophical approach on these things, often it makes you feel a lot better.

If you have to face your own mortality and mortality of close people (someone younger than you dies!) its pretty hard to stay above it all and keep cool.

That said, I symapthise, Having had enough phonecalls about someone dying in past month that I am getting scared of my ringtone.

And i saw exactly one year ago that being young won't save anyone from being run over by high&drunk driver.

DreamRunner · Jun 20, 2009, 05:50 PM // 17:50

I have had a few friends die from causes that are common but not really mentioned. I had two friends kill themselves, one when I was 14 and the other in my last year of high school. Everyone in the school year was shocked, and it was really hard to move-on as a year group. It was mostly because my year at school(my school is boys only) only had 50 boys.

Another school friend got run-over by a drunken, pill-popping bitch a year ago. My next door neighbour's son drowned 2 weeks ago and according to health surveys, this is quite common. By the time I am fifty(if I live that long), almost 1/4 of my highschool year group would have died. It is a weird side of occurrence that society protects its women and children all the time, when it is MEN that are dying, killing, destroying. What I am trying to say is that males have a greater chance to be killed from ALL diseases except women dominate diseases like breast and cervical cancer(which are very few). Think of this way, more men die from prostates cancer than women do from breast cancer, yet breast cancer research gets more than double, the funding than prostate cancer. Men also drink, smoke, suicide more, but use seatbelts, sunscreen and goes sees the doctor less. It is no wonder that the life expectancy of males is 7 years under females.

Now more on-topic. To be blunt, I don't care much for Risky Ranger or this thread or anyone I know only online quite frankly. I do, however, sympathize with Risky Ranger from the loss of someone close. I do NOT feel sad for his loss because I think that would be of a insult. If I found out an anonymous person felt sad for me without even KNOWING me, is something both stupid and insulting.

Rocky Raccoon · Jun 20, 2009, 08:40 PM // 20:40

Quote:

Originally Posted by DreamRunner

I have had a few friends die from causes that are common but not really mentioned. I had two friends kill themselves, one when I was 14 and the other in my last year of high school. Everyone in the school year was shocked, and it was really hard to move-on as a year group. It was mostly because my year at school(my school is boys only) only had 50 boys.

Another school friend got run-over by a drunken, pill-popping bitch a year ago. My next door neighbour's son drowned 2 weeks ago and according to health surveys, this is quite common. By the time I am fifty(if I live that long), almost 1/4 of my highschool year group would have died. It is a weird side of occurrence that society protects its women and children all the time, when it is MEN that are dying, killing, destroying. What I am trying to say is that males have a greater chance to be killed from ALL diseases except women dominate diseases like breast and cervical cancer(which are very few). Think of this way, more men die from prostates cancer than women do from breast cancer, yet breast cancer research gets more than double, the funding than prostate cancer. Men also drink, smoke, suicide more, but use seatbelts, sunscreen and goes sees the doctor less. It is no wonder that the life expectancy of males is 7 years under females.

Now more on-topic. To be blunt, I don't care much for Risky Ranger or this thread or anyone I know only online quite frankly. I do, however, sympathize with Risky Ranger from the loss of someone close. I do NOT feel sad for his loss because I think that would be of a insult. If I found out an anonymous person felt sad for me without even KNOWING me, is something both stupid and insulting.

Whoa, sorry if I hit a soft spot. It is nice to know that I am not alone on your list of people you don't care for, it's the whole internet you don't like.
I guess online trust and compassion are not some of your stronger points.
I hope your venting helped you feel a little better.

**cosyfiep** · Jun 20, 2009, 09:18 PM // 21:18

sorry to hear it OP....a friend of mine just had a good friend of theirs pass from cancer-----its sad
Yes life is short, my dad died when I was a freshman in college, so I learned about mortality then....and then just a few years ago my husbands brother (who was just 2 years older than I) died suddenly on new years eve....that was quite a slap in the face! (I am older than he was then....makes me a bit nervous now)...never thought 40 was old, but it just proves your life can end at any time.
Condolences OP

Winterclaw · Jun 21, 2009, 01:35 AM // 01:35

My condolences to you RR. Life is shorter than most people want it to be so you got to make the most of it while you can.

DreamRunner · Jun 21, 2009, 03:06 AM // 03:06

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Originally Posted by Risky Ranger

Whoa, sorry if I hit a soft spot. It is nice to know that I am not alone on your list of people you don't care for, it's the whole internet you don't like.
I guess online trust and compassion are not some of your stronger points.
I hope your venting helped you feel a little better.

The think you misunderstood me. Liking someone hasn't got anything to do with it. I've met some very nice people on the internet, some people I play with, some I don't. The problem with the internet, is that the person could be ANYONE. The person on the computer could be, and sometimes are very different in real life than online. Being on the internet takes away many social interactions which shy people might see as barriers. I think bodily and facial expression is huge part of being social interactive with someone.

It isn't that online trust or compassion isn't my strong points or relevant, but how real life is much more important to me. If being online takes a priority over something else, I think that person is troubled.

pumpkin pie · Jun 21, 2009, 05:20 AM // 05:20

online venting is often just online venting, what it needs is response and finding out that one is not alone, that there are similar cases, that other people have gone tru the same situations. It gives the person who are venting a kind of fast relief, when the internet is the fastest available means of, well, venting, it does not actually need compassion.

As for trust, never trust anyone online even if you know that person in real life.

^^ could also apply to your, why do people keep on posting thread Risky Ranger lol.

I found a word better in place of compassion, (IMHO) empathy is what is needed.